Once we learn to accept we have both light and dark inside of us we learn to stop manipulating our darkness to appear as light. You don’t defeat your demons. You battle them everyday and slowly you begin to separate yourself. But neither can live without the other. Get to know your darkness, your selfishness and accept that this will always be apart of you. People confuse growth with manipulation and get really good creating a persona and life that gets dug deeper and deeper into a lie. Your not “growing” your pretending and robbing yourself. Find your light by finding your dark.